When trying to get what you want – whether it be health, wealth, relationships – you always have 3 priorities to choose from – but you can only pick two. The way you choose these options will dictate how happy and successful you are over the course of your life. I’ve learned this the hard way.
Your 3 options are:
• Long Term
You can have two. All three cannot exist simultaneously.
Want to get healthy? You can do it the fast and easy way – starve yourself, take drugs – but it won’t be long term. You can do the easy and long term way (diet/excercise/meditation), but it won’t be fast. You can do it fast and long term, sure, but it will be a very hard grind (alarm goes off at 4:30 am). Pick how you want.
Want to get wealthy? Sure, you can do it the fast and easy way (steal, cheat, lie), but it won’t be long term. You can do it the fast and long term way, but get ready to dig in hard and work 7 days a week. Want to get wealthy the easy way? Simple. Work hard, save, invest wisely, learn, pay attention to opportunities, and don’t give into the consumerism plague that is whispering to buy new shit that you don’t need all the time.
I was a fool in my 20s for driving cars that cost nearly 50% of my annual income. Could have been saving and investing instead of trying to “prove myself” to a bunch of people who aren’t even in my life in my 30s.
Want to find a partner? Fast and easy would be to hop on Tinder…but we all know how long those things last. It takes patience to go through the slog of dating to find your perfect match. But is it worth it? Up to you. Depends how badly you want a partner.
I guess the reason why am talking about this is because it is so plain to see that we are in a time in this country where people are always looking for “fast, temporary relief”, as opposed to addressing the root of the problem. Look at the opioid epidemic. People go from high to high. Other people get high off spending money, or Instagram likes. Everyone that isn’t playing for the long term has their drug du jour.
Unfortunately, the problem with temporary relief is just that…it’s temporary. Whether people use alcohol to get fast temporary relief, sleep around to get fast temporary relief, or spend hours taking the perfect selfie for a few hundred likes, this compulsive need to “feel better now” is the result of a society that values now pleasure over planting seeds for the big victory over the long haul.
Ultimately, the only way to long-term health, wealth, and success is through mastery. It is through the day in and day out discipline of planting seeds for your career or business, to win the day every day for your health, spending time learning every day, and to be honest with yourself about your problems and to deal with them head on.
And while discipline always sounds hard, I’m here to remind you (because you know) that it’s far easier than always having to start over, constantly having to meet someone new, being broke, or taking a dozen prescription medications to keep your body working.
Ignoring our problems – problems we all have – only makes them worse. Don’t be the person who knows this truth and does nothing about it.