Attitude and attraction are both (red) hot button topics in the world of success and leadership right now – and for good reason. These two topics are not mutually exclusive, and they both influence once another on a daily basis. Let me elaborate.
If you aren’t on the bandwagon that a conscious positive attitude brings more positive into your life, allow me to remind why that’s the case, and also remind why being positive isn’t necessarily easy for anyone.
Firstly, I specifically say “conscious” because it isn’t easy to be positive – it’s a choice you have to make on a daily basis. Frankly, we live in a world where 95% of people are working careers they don’t enjoy while sacrificing things and people they do enjoy. Most of those people are not afraid to post their (self-induced) suffering on social media, or to share it with you every time you socialize with them.
Every time you turn on the news it seems (read: it is) ABC, CNN, FOX, and NBC are in a competition to remind us just how terrible the world is, how many people are dying from Ebola/Israel/Hamas/ISIS/Iraq/Plane Crashes/Al-Qaeda/Cancer/Homicides/Shark Attacks/Sugar, and how you’re next – so watch more TV, eat more, spend more, and don’t ask more questions. Be afraid.
This consistent negative programming does quite a number on you, whether or not you see it or not. It makes you adverse to risk, makes you feel helpless, and makes you negative. Maybe angry. Maybe it makes you just want to crawl into your man or woman cave and “weather the storm”. What we can agree on, however, is that if you’re living life this way – negative, fearful, hopeless – you won’t be attractive to anyone that is positive, working hard, and believing there is still greatness in America and the World. Positive and negative do not attract each other.
Now, what happens when you turn off the TV, cut out negative people from your life (there is no loyalty to people that poison you), unsubscribe from every last self-defeating victim on Facebook or Twitter, and start your day by programming yourself with positivity? Reading leadership-based or self-growth books, listening to positive music, working out, eating healthy, and taking control? You start to feel better. You are in control. You are growing. You are in charge. And what happens when you feel like you are growing, in charge, and making progress? You’re happier. You smile more. You talk to more people. You’re more outgoing. And what happens? Other people that are happy, making moves, working hard, and taking control like you, talk to you, engage with you, and good things start to happen. They see you as a like-minded, positive, progressive person, and the old adage “birds of a feather flock together” comes into play, and you start to attract great people and opportunities to you. It’s not some magic, Secret-esque thing. You’re just putting out positive vibes. And positive people like positive people.
Here’s the point of this blog and topic, however. Negative operates in the exact same way. Some people make the mistake of thinking negative pushes everything away. On the contrary, negative is just as (if not more so) attractive than positive, considering there is a much, much higher volume of negative people in the world. Misery loves company, and you’ll get heaps more misery if that’s how you decide to project yourself. And even if you somehow attract a positive person, it won’t be long before you push them away.
If you work sporatically, pout, blame, eat and drink (or worse) the wrong things, waste your time, deprioritize your family, health, and future – how do you think you’re going to feel? Happy? Obviously not. You’ll know you’re not maximizing your potential. You’ll know there is more you can do for yourself and the world. So, what kind of vibes are you going to put out? Sad, depressive, victim, pouty vibes. And who does that attract? Other sad, depressive, pouty people. Why do the people in your life keep sucking? Why do people keep screwing you over? Why can’t you get a good partner? Why can’t you find a good business partner? Is God against you? Is the Universe conspiring against you?
God and the Universe give you what you put out. Luck is a lie. You do the work to put out positive consistently in a strikingly negative world, you attract a higher quality person into your life. Better opportunities will come into your life, and it will appear to others as luck. Calling someone who works hard lucky is insulting. To be positive, wake up early, work out, and to do something in a world that wants you to be afraid is no small task. You deserve greatness if that’s how you live.
And of course, if you put out negative, victim attitude consistently, you get negative people in your life.
Every morning you open your eyes you get the opportunity to make a choice on who you’ll be today and how you’ll interact with your world. If you want more, be more. Don’t roll the dice on your life, you are not random. Get behind the wheel and choose positive, because positive and negative are both very, very attractive.