What is your Why?
Your “Why” is your driving force. It is your dream, your cause, your belief, and your mission. Most people in life never develop their why. They never invest the time to discover what is most important to them. This is mostly because, from the day they are born, they are conditioned to desire certain things, and to forsake everything else.
Most people are taught that the key to happiness is to behave, earn a degree at a prestigious university, get a secure job at a Fortune 500 company, lock down an attractive spouse, produce 2.5 well-rounded, athletic, intelligent children who in turn will attend the same college, pursue the same career, and duplicate the process.
These people are dreamers. They believe that if they just follow the rules things will work out in their favor. They believe they will be fulfilled. Look around and tell yourself the honest truth: do most people seem happy and fulfilled? Do most people seem like they love their jobs? Do most people see their families as much as they’d like? Do most people feel like they are contributing to the world? Or are most people stuck? And when we conform so completely, what do we lose?
Lost in that conformity is creativity. Dreams. Love. Adventure. The dreams we had as children that progressively eroded as we were told that being unique, weird, different, and quirky was wrong. You must fit snugly, obediently, and willingly in the box. Everyone is born with a spark, and a calling.
This blog is about taking that spark and setting the box ablaze and living your life as you would awake and aware…knowing that you actually do only live once, and you don’t get your teens, 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, and 50’s back. You don’t get those knees back. You don’t get that voice back. You don’t get those ideas back. You don’t get those opportunities for greatness back.
Great people, doers, are born with a spark, a passion, and are unafraid to conceal it. The great people/entrepreneurs/artists of our world, whether it be Gandhi, MLK, Steve Jobs, or Mark Zuckerberg, are all enamored with breaking the norm, following their heart, their why, and their dream. The allow themselves to traverse down the rabbit hole, explore, and embrace their Why, their dream, their vision. They know going into it that most people will not understand, that most people will dislike it, and that people will wonder “what’s wrong with them.” They don’t care. They don’t want to be a dreamer, waiting for things to work themselves out. They want to be a doer. They want to make it happen. And because they know what they want, they have the first component done: a Why.
Doers identify their Why. How do you do that? Ask yourself these questions:
1) What do I love?
2) What am I passionate about?
3) What would I do if I could do anything, if money and time were not an issue?
4) What cause am I in love with?
5) What adventures would I take, if I could?
6) Who would I help?
7) What would I want to give?
These questions are the first step to defining what’s most important to you. Your life will be fulfilling only if you are embracing and driving toward things that truly fulfill you. For some people, it is simply their family. These people would love nothing more than to spend the majority of the time with their aging parents, their love, and raising their children.
Yet, what do most people do? Most spend 60 hours a week with their boss, and leave the scraps to their families. This absolutely isn’t the only way to live, but it certainly is going to take more than conventional mindsets, careers, and choices to have such freedom. This is why many choose to break the mold to be an entrepreneur, so they can have the freedom to live their life as they see fit.
This specific blog isn’t about giving you an answer, because your Why is your very own. It’s what makes you, you. If you want to learn more about lifestyle design and following your passions, I suggest you read The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss, and Crush It! by Gary Vaynerchuk. Those books, along with a good reprogramming by Rich Dad, Poor Dad (Robert Kiyosaki), helped create a game plan for me to follow as I pursued my passions and lived my life as I saw fit. I invite you to be a Doer with me, embrace how you truly wish your life-book to read, and get to work on it.
It’s not easy, but dammit it’s worth it.